Books for Children About Losing a Pet (UK)
These three books can help you talk with your child about losing a pet. Read them yourself first so you can choose one that suits your child and the questions they’re asking.
Books to read together
Goodbye Mog — Judith Kerr
For children who know Mog, this familiar character can be a starting point for talking about missing a pet and remembering them.
Publisher’s age guide: 2–5 years.
The Tenth Good Thing About Barney — Judith Viorst, illustrated by Erik Blegvad
A child remembers Barney by listing good things about him. You could use the same idea to talk about your own pet.
Publisher’s age guide: 6–9 years.
Over the Rainbow Bridge — Noel Fitzpatrick
A story about losing a pet and remembering happy times together.
Publisher’s age guide: 3 years and up.
Choosing a book
Use the ages above as a guide. Look for language your child understands and check how the book describes death. Expressions such as “went to sleep” can be confusing for younger children.
For help with the conversation, read how to talk to children about pet death.
Reading together
- Pause when your child has a question.
- Let them change the subject or stop reading.
- Come back to the book another day if they want to.
You could ask which part of the story reminds them of their pet, without expecting an answer straight away.
Activities and support
Blue Cross’s “Missing My Friend” resources offer conversation starters and activities for children. Our Pet Loss Support Hub also lists UK support services and helplines.
If you’re worried about your child
Speak to your GP or a qualified professional if your child has persistent sleep problems, panic, withdrawal or intense guilt. If they talk about not wanting to be alive, seek help promptly.
If there is an immediate risk to their safety, call 999 or 112. The NHS urgent mental health help page explains the support available.
This article provides general information and does not replace professional advice.
